Sunday, December 12, 2010

Assisted Birth Family Search

Last week I mailed in an application to Holt International for an Assisted Birth Family Search. To complete my application, I submitted an introductory letter written to my birth parents, along with photos of myself from the time I was adopted to the present. Holt in Eugene, Oregon will now forward this information on to Holt in Korea, where the search will begin.

My Dearest Birth Family,

It has been 24 years since I was last with you. My desire to find and meet you has not always been, but as I have grown into an adult, wife and mother, I have learned that there is nothing more sacred and special in life than family. It is you that gave me life and a chance at all that I have and will experience. To you, I am eternally grateful for the love and sacrifice you showed me as a tiny infant. Your gracious act has led me to a life filled with faith, opportunity and unconditional love.

On October 17th, 1986, you placed me with Holt International where I was soon cared for by a foster mother. On February 12, 1987, I flew to the United States where I was joined with my adoptive parents. I was raised in Portland, Oregon by two loving parents, two brothers and one sister. As a child, my family was very open about my adoption. I always knew of you and that I had other siblings by birth. Although I didn’t have any further information about my birth family, I was always curious as to who you were and what you were like.

At the age of 2 years old, I began training in dance. As I grew older, I trained in all difference styles of dance which led to many achievements and memorable experiences. After graduating from high school, I taught dance for several years, took college courses and worked in multiple fields of interest.

At the age of 21 years old, I met my husband and we were married in Portland, Oregon. A year later, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. My daughter is now 1 ½ years old and such a joy to have in my life. Being her mother is a blessing and I would do anything to provide her with the best care and happiness possible. I hope to introduce you to my family someday.

As I mentioned before, meeting you wasn’t always an interest of mine. My disinterest was not because I had hard feelings toward you, but because I was fearful of the unknown. It was when I had my daughter that I realized how significant family truly is and will always be.

In my family, I am the only one that is adopted and I am the only one that is Korean. At family gatherings, I am used to the fact that no one in the room looks like me. I have often wondered what my birth parents and sisters look like and whether we share any physical attributes or personality traits. I have often wondered what my medical background is like and what history I have in my birth family ancestry. These are all thoughts that have crossed my mind and hope that in finding you, I might be able to know and learn the answers.

You made a decision 24 years ago that changed your lives and mine. I am forever grateful for the blessings and hope that you gave me during what must have been a very difficult time for you. I want you to know that placing me for adoption was an act of love and inspires me every day.

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